Son of Stella and Siddich. Was born on January 1, 1987 in Baku, Azerbaijan, in the former Soviet Union, a young brother to Emil, who immigrated to Israel in 1991, when Elmer was four and a half years old. The Gassanov family settled in Givat Hamoreh in Afula, where Elmer visited the kindergarten. As a child, his parents’ financial situation was not easy. In 1993, the family moved to Haifa and Elmer studied first grade through sixth grade at the Romema Elementary School in Haifa. Afterward, he continued his studies in junior high and high school “Alliance” in the city. He was a mischievous child, but the education at home was rigorous and set clear boundaries. Elmer was an excellent athlete who loved sports very much – especially playing football, basketball, and skating. He also taught other children. Another love he had – playing guitar and organ. Elmer played by ear, without knowledge of notes, self-learning and without instruction. He was very talented in music and had excellent musical hearing. He also liked listening to music on his 3-MP. As an adult, he found a common language with his brother Emil through music, and grew up between them both. They went to artist performances together, after Emile invited Elmer. He was a very sociable child, warm and sensitive to himself and others. In his youth he was surrounded by younger friends. At the same time, he suffered from low self-esteem. Until the age of twelve, Elmer was picky with the foods he agreed to put in his mouth and refused to eat what he did not like, such as white food products – milk and dairy products, vanilla ice cream and so on. On the other hand, he liked to eat tropical fruits like mango, kiwi, pineapple, and his mother spoiled him with all these delicacies. Only in adolescence did he open up to more varied foods and his appetite awoke. In high school, Elmer was a typical teenager. His grandmother, his mother’s mother, also lived in the family house and Valmer respected and respected her. His relations with his mother were close and friends. Elmar shared his experiences with his mother when he enlisted in the IDF, and he always felt his distress at the beginning of his service, but he later adapted and seemed pleased, and was assigned as a military driver at the naval base in Haifa. He was familiar with all parts of the country and enjoyed driving, and his commanding officers were satisfied that he was doing his job well, and once he crossed the road near his base, not in the half-crossing, was caught by the military police and punished. His family and brought him cooked food from the house Sergeant Sergey Abserich, former commander of Elmer, Bull that commanded for a year at the naval base. According to him, Elmer was a very quiet soldier, performed his work in an excellent manner and without disciplinary problems. When he was calm he spoke freely, while in stressful situations he stammered and found it hard to express himself. He was accepted and loved by his comrades in the unit. During the Second Lebanon War, Major-General Abserich was impressed by the seriousness and dedication of Elmer, who was an excellent soldier who did not rush out to his home and sometimes even stayed after working hours at the base, while his colleagues said he was prone to extreme moods – on the one hand, He seemed depressed, and then used to sit alone and play the guitar, but usually tried not to show his outward inclination towards depression, his social ties were loose, but the soldiers testified that he seemed generally happy and loved by all the transport soldiers he served. He was socially harmed and seemed to fit well into his unit Vienna professionally and socially. He was a shy, introverted closed and can not be easily dubbing, but his friends heard of stories about his family and significantWho loved his supportive mother very much. A female soldier who served on the same basis said that Elmer complained a lot about the military establishment, but it was evident from his statements that his commander treated him well and was understanding. Elmer suffered from depression and wrote about it in his personal diary, which was found among his belongings after his death. Between his pages he raised his thoughts, feelings and pains, feelings of rejection and disappointment, despair and hopelessness. He did not share his troubles and problems with anyone and rejected medication or psychotherapy. None of his commanders or members of his family knew that Almer had already tried to kill himself, two failed attempts. Although he was in constant distress, he prevented his relatives, commanders, and mental health officers who were in contact with him from approaching him and helping him. He hid his thoughts of self-harm. His friend to the neighborhood, Tamir Gawman, said he had known Elmer for many years and the two belonged to the group she had spent together. After Elmer’s induction into the IDF, Tamir met him frequently, and on the eve of his death they met at random in their neighborhood, and when Tamir asked Elmer when he was about to be released, Elmer replied that he intended to continue his career and improve his economic situation. He said that on the Saturday before his death, Elmer had arranged his room and set up a television set in his room, and Sergeant First Sergeant Sinai Cohen, his commander from September 2007, described The day before Elmer’s death; he had carried out the tasks assigned to him as required; in the afternoon he went home to fetch a thing In private ahead of a two-day trip to Eilat and returned at night. Upon his return Elmer spoke with his commander and expressed no distress. Sergeant Elmer Gassanov fell during his military service on November 17, 2008, when he was twenty-two years old. He was laid to rest in the Haifa military cemetery. Survived by his parents and brother. On his gravestone, the parents engraved a personal caption: “Far away you suddenly walked away from us, in a galaxy of stars above – a glittering flash of your eyes.” In a letter he left, Elmer wrote that he felt he had not used his life and that the last months of his life were difficult and meaningless, “as if time had stopped for me, and everyone was continuing with their lives.” He experienced dissatisfaction and found no point in continuing to live. “This world is so dark and gloomy for me, day is darkness, and darkness is the right way to disappear I was not good in words in my life, especially in deeds, words, actions, and silence Everything was good, more happy, I was born healthy, everything was fine, but somehow my condition got worse, I was alone, alone, without friends, no bruise, no identity to represent me, who I am. I began to think that there was no future, no place to aspire to, and the future seemed farther than I thought, and when one does not see the future, it breaks down, breaks down, and slowly disappears. Signal the horizon in the sky, but always something to hide me … “Elmer asked to put an end to pain, suffering and misery that afflicted.
